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Imitating God's Unconditional Love
7/29/2011

Imitating God's Unconditional Love
The Recipe To an Amazing Marriage

"Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down ones life for his friends." John 15:13 (NKJV)

One of the most overused and misunderstood words used in the English language or any other language for that matter is love. From an early age we are programmed to learn what man's definition of love is.  Unfortunately this type of love is a cheap and very poor imitation of God's Agape love.  Unfortunately many people never understand the difference.  Ultimately it boils down to two things - God's love is selfless and others-centered where man's is selfish and self-centered.
 
It is no great feat to love another as long as we are being loved back, but once we feel we are not being loved, often times we find this very difficult and will often choose to stop loving the other person as well.    We see this in marriages both Christian and non-Christian equally.  Usually one person in the relationship will eventually draw a line and say, "No more!  I am finished!  I've tried and I cannot, nor should I be expected to do this any longer.  It is my life and I deserve to be happy.  God doesn't expect me to be a doormat, and I know He wants me to be happy."

It is understandable to see this happen in the lives of people who do not walk with God, but this then brings up a very important question for those who profess to know Jesus as their Lord and Savior.

Q:    How does this happen in a Christian marriage?

I believe it happens because there is a lack of commitment - commitment to God that is.

This is primarily because either one or both in the relationship are choosing not to love the other in the way God has instructed them to - in Agape love.  This love is willing to do whatever is best for the one being loved and will always put the other first.  We need to know this love is the fruit of the Holy Spirit and we will see it in the life of those who are wholly surrendered and are therefore committed in their walk with God.  God has instructed us to love Him and then others as His two greatest commandments.

But we cannot love in this way if we are not committed to God.  Ultimately our commitment to God will always lead us to reading His Word and as we remain committed to abiding in Him and His statutes then we will bear the fruit of Agape love.  This happens because we learn how much He loved us and we learn about His character.  This results in our being drawn to Him and our wanting to live for Him first and foremost. 

When counseling people who are frustrated at their spouse I will usually ask them at some point, What does this have to do with you and God?  It is a straightforward question and it applies to every one of us for just about any situation where we feel we have been wronged or are being treated improperly.  Another person's wrong actions should never dictate our responding in kind.  We must remember who we are in Christ Jesus and remain committed to doing what is right - even when a spouse is committed to doing what is wrong.  

Hear me in this - we may be the only light in their life when they are choosing to walk independently from God.  As we choose to love God - as we choose to imitate and obey Him with a proper cheerful heart - we will reflect God's light through us, and this will almost always bring a strong conviction to the one who is sinning, and it will keep us from having a bitter or calloused heart.

Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her...Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:1,25,33 (NKJV)

I want to encourage you today to recommit your life to God and to always seek His will for every situation - especially your marriage.  Learn to love selflessly and do it as if you are doing it for Jesus.  You will be blessed and it will be the greatest testimony of Jesus Christ for your spouse.  

STUDY QUESTION: According to the Scriptures contained in this devotional, what can we learn about our loving others?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Are you committed to loving your spouse and others as if you are doing it for God - regardless of how they respond?

APPLICATION: Make a commitment each and every day when you awake to allow Jesus to be Lord of your life and to imitate His selfless servants heart.

Father, thank You for showing me what it means to love.  I am sorry for the times I have made it about me and my wants rather than loving others as if I were doing it for You.  Give me a proper heart today Lord and help me to love the way You do.  In Jesus' precious name, amen...

Be Blessed, Pastor Scott


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