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Divorce vs. Marriage
8/29/2008

Divorce vs. Marriage
    
    Will You Honor Gods Word?
    
     It has been said, Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew 5:31-32 (NIV)
    
    I performed my first wedding ceremony a couple of weeks ago with a couple of friends of mine. They had conducted marriage-counseling classes and they both have accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior. By all measures, they should have a great marriage for the rest of their lives, and I pray that God will guide them each step of the way.
    
    I would imagine that every marriage agreement starts with the thought of forever and yet so often, they end up destroyed, leaving hurt, anger bitterness and destruction in the wake. It can be frustrating to counsel couples in the midst of their arguing and fighting because they are focused usually only on one thing; themselves.
    
    If I can talk to a couple either in person or through correspondence, I usually ask them, How is your relationship with God? You see, that sets the tone for the entire conversation. Because if they have a good relationship with God, then we can get through this. No ifs, ands or buts about it!
    
    You see, this is where the breakdown occurs in marriages, it is between one or both of the spouses and God. Because if they would simply just humble themselves and obey God and His word, and submit to their spouse as if they were submitting to God, there usually wont be a problem. The problem occurs when one or both of them draw a line and decide that they want to do something other than Gods commandment. In doing this they feed their flesh and damage or even leave the relationship. Just plain selfishness!
    
    I can hear the most foolish reasons for getting divorced. I have heard people say, I feel that God is okay with my getting a divorce because I have a peace about it. Or, We have just grown apart&We dont love each other any more&I dont feel like they are the same person that I married& Thats garbage! We dont just use our emotions to make Godly decisions; we use the Word of God to make those decisions. If the Word of God says No, then it means No.
    
    Believe it or not, there is not going to be an appendage to the Word of God allowing this one time for your situation because its different.
    
    God intends marriage to be a lifetime commitment (see Gen. 2:24), no exceptions! When entering a marriage commitment, people should never consider divorce an option for solving problems or a way out of a relationship that seems dead.
    
    In the above Scriptures, Jesus is attacking those who purposely abuse the marriage contract, using divorce to satisfy their lustful desire to marry someone else.
    
    Jesus said that divorce is not permissible except for unfaithfulness. This does not mean that divorce should automatically occur when a spouse commits adultery either. The word translated unfaithfulness implies a sexually immoral life-style, not a confessed and repented act of adultery. Those who discover that their partner has been unfaithful should first make every effort to forgive, reconcile, and restore their relationship. We are always to look for reasons to restore the marriage relationship rather than for excuses to leave it.
    
    Im going to ask you to contemplate a question if youre in now, or if you ever get into the temptation to quit in your relationship.
    
     What does it have to do with you and God?
    
    Ask yourself this question if someone is doing something that is causing you to want to leave a relationship. Its that simple gang!
    
     Hey guys, I dont care if your wife is nagging you. And women, I dont care if your husband is lazy, it doesnt have anything to do with your relationship with God. You see, if your relationship with God is good, if your reading your bible, if your praying and talking with the Lord, if your desiring to be the spouse that God wants you to be, and if you are willing to honor Gods command, then you can work through any problem, or impasse that you may think that you are up against in your relationship.
    
    When it comes down to it, there are really not any legitimate reasons to walk away from a relationship. All of them can be fixed, corrected, healed and alleviated with the love and power of God. We just need to be willing to do His will instead of our own. He gives you the choice to make that one decision, and the power to make it.
    
    Will you allow God to work through your relationship? Or will you say No to God?
    
    Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. Romans 8:5 (NIV)
    
    It is not my intention to make anyone feel guilty. I am simply sharing Gods word and how it relates to our marriages. If it makes you feel guilty, then it is simply the conviction of His word upon your heart.
    
    Maybe this doesnt apply to you, but I bet that you know someone that it does, or you will know someone soon that it will. Keep this in mind for good counsel, or to pass on. It just may save a marriage. For more on how we should live in marriage, see 1 Corinthians 7:1-16, Eph. 5:22-33.
    
    STUDY QUESTION: According to the Scriptures, what does divorce cause for those who are involved with the divorced individuals?
    
    PERSONAL INVENTORY: When you consider whether something is right or not, is Gods word the definitive rule to make your decisions? Or, will you blatantly ignore Gods command and do what you feel like doing?
    
    APPLICATION: Seek God for His Word and His truth, His strength and His will for every decision that you make. You will be surprised at what God can and will do if you give Him a chance instead of doing things independently.
    
    Father, thank You for Your Word and its truth. I seek You today in my life Lord. I want to know what You want me to do in each and every situation. I am sorry for the decisions in the past that have been made in a selfish way, and I seek You Wisdom this day so that I may know what is proper to do. I ask this in Jesus precious name, amen&
    
    Be Blessed, Pastor Scott
    
    

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