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Biblical Guidelines for Restoring Relationships 4

Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. Eph. 4:31 (NKJV)

We are looking at a mulitple part devotional titled, Biblical Guidelines for Restoring Relationships, which is taken from the Scriptures in Ephesians 4:27-32. So far, we have looked at the first four guidelines, which are—

1.            Don’t give place to the devil (Eph. 4:27).

2.            Repent of ungodly ways (Eph. 4:28).

3.            Stop all corrupt speaking and start to say edifying things, and things imparting grace (Eph 4:29).

4.            Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit (Eph. 4:30).

Let’s take a look at our fifth guideline given to us to ensure we stay in God’s will when we find ourselves in a broken relationship.

5.            Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice (See Eph. 4:31)

This guideline from Ephesians 4:31 is much like the commandments given in Colossians 3:8-10, where we are told to “Put off all of these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. Do not lie to one another.” This means we are to get rid of these things.  We’ve already looked at the consequences of corrupt language and improper actions in our last devotional—how it grieved and quenched the Spirit in our life.

Bitterness is a sweet temptation from the enemy to harbor resentment and to keep a scorecard of offenses done to us by others. If left unchecked it will bring forth the fruit of anger and vocal outbursts. Nothing is as damaging to a relationship as one who speaks in anger about those things that should never have been brought up again. To do this is the opposite of true forgiveness, and it is an offense to God. 

We must understand the ultimate source of each of these negative attributes is our “old self.” This is why we must put these destructive ways to death. The only way we are going to do this is to purpose within our heart to honor God, and to imitate Jesus (Eph. 5:1). If we don’t choose to do this prior to the problem, we will in all likelihood find ourselves reverting to our old nature. And if we don’t take our thoughts captive when going through a strained relationship we will in all likelihood become very bitter which will continue the destructive cycle as we regard iniquity in our heart. 

If I regard iniquity in my heart, The Lord will not hear. Psa. 66:18 (NKJV)

I want to encourage you to think and pray upon these truths today.

STUDY QUESTION: What can we learn from the Scriptures contained within this devotional with regard to harboring anger, wrath, and bitterness?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Are you putting away those things such as bitterness, anger, shouting, wrath, and evil speaking? Are you truly forgiving others immediately when they offend you?

PRACTICAL APPLICATION: Make it a point to show kindness, grace, and mercy to everyone, especially to those who offend or persecute you. Allow God to deal with those who hurt you, and simply seek to be a blessing in every relationship with others.

MAKE THIS YOUR PRAYER TODAY:  Father, thank You for the blessing of Your Word. Thank You for Your guidance, and leading in my life.  Thank You for transforming me to be more like Jesus. Help me to remember these guidelines when dealing with every relationship within my life. May I be a blessing to others and bring honor to You. In Jesus’ precious name, amen…

Be Blessed, Pastor Scott



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