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Biblical Guidelines for Restoring Relationships 3

And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Eph. 4:30 (NKJV)

We are looking at a multiple part devotional titled, Biblical Guidelines for Restoring Relationships, which is taken from the Scriptures in Ephesians 4:27-32. So far, we have looked at the first three guidelines, which are—

1.            Don’t give place to the devil (Eph. 4:27).

2.            Repent of ungodly ways (Eph. 4:28).

3.            Stop all corrupt speaking and start to say edifying things, and things imparting grace (unmerited favor) (Eph 4:29).

Let’s take a look at our fourth guideline given to us to ensure we stay in God’s will when we find ourselves in a broken relationship.

4.   Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit (Eph. 4:30).

There is probably no sadder picture than that of grieving the Holy Spirit. To “grieve” the Holy Spirit is to cause Him to be sorrowful and sad.

·      It’s when we allow our “old” fleshly nature to control our actions instead of allowing our “new” Christ-like nature to respond in love. 

·      It’s when we choose to speak divisive or angry words rather than edifying ones to promote unity. 

·      It’s when we choose to say, “No” to the things of God, and “Yes” to the things of the world. 

·      It’s when we choose to walk and live according to our will—being lead by our feelings and desires—instead of being led by God’s will, and His Word, and ultimately by the Holy Spirit.

When we grieve the Holy Spirit, we are quenching the Holy Spirit, and we are told not to do this.

Do not quench the Spirit. 1 Thessalonians 5:19 (NKJV)

To quench the Spirit means we are extinguishing that very power within our lives that enables us to use the gifts and abilities we have been given. Here are just a few of those gifts and abilities that the Holy Spirit is responsible for.

·      The Holy Spirit is our helper who will teach us things and will enable us to understand and remember God’s Word (John 14:26). 

·      The Holy Spirit is responsible for transforming us to be more like Jesus (2 Cor 3:18).

·      The Holy Spirit enables us, as Christians, to know God’s will for our lives (Rom 12:2; Jn.14:26). 

·      The Holy Spirit gives us the strength we need to continue to walk in an abiding relationship with the Lord (Gal. 5:16; Eph. 5:8-10). 

It is important for us to think about our actions.  We should often ask ourselves, “Are my actions unifying and edifying, or are they divisive, and ones that tear down?” We need to seek to do those things we know to be glorifying to God. Whether others receive us or not should never be a reason to stop being the Christian we have been called to be—what matters is that we are being obedient to our Lord (cf. 1 Sam. 15:22).

STUDY QUESTION: According to the Scriptures contained within this devotion, what are we warned against?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Can you think of ways in which you may be grieving the Holy Spirit?

PRACTICAL APPLICATION: Choose to think about your actions before you act. Choose to seek to glorify God in everything you do. 

MAKE THIS YOUR PRAYER TODAY: Father, we thank You for Your word, and for helping us to be prepared to walk in peace and love. Help me to do what I know to be right when I find myself in a broken relationship, regardless of what the other person chooses to do. In Jesus’ precious name, amen…

Be Blessed, Pastor Scott


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