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Biblical Guidelines for Restoring Relationships 2

Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. 1 John 3:18 (NLT)

We are looking at a multi-part devotional titled, Biblical Guidelines for Restoring Relationships, which is taken from the Scriptures in Ephesians 4:27-32.  So far, we have looked at the first two guidelines, which are—

1.            Don’t give place to the devil (Eph. 4:27).

2.            Repent of ungodly ways (Eph. 4:28).

Let’s take a look at our third guideline given to us to ensure we stay in God’s will when we find ourselves in a broken relationship.

3.            Stop all corrupt speaking and start to say edifying things, and things imparting grace (unmerited favor) (Eph 4:29).

This one seems to be easy to say, but much harder to do—especially when someone is saying something hurtful or derogatory to us. It’s as if we have a button pushed, and it brings forth this fleshly propensity to push their button back. God’s Word says, “Don’t do it!” 

Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. Romans 12:17 (NKJV)

Instead, we are instructed to hold our tongue, and to put our mind back upon things that are noble, just, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and worthy of praise (See Phil. 4:8), and to say something that will be filled with grace (Col 4:6).

Ask yourself this question, “Would I rather be spending my time with someone who is divisive, angry, and complaining continuously? One who is cynical and vulgar, or with a person who is pleasant, positive and happy—who has encouraging things to say? Well, if you would rather be hanging around the positive person who is uplifting, then chances are so do others. We cannot control the actions of other people, but we can control our own. And we can determine whether we want to be happy and at peace.

Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one. Colossians 4:6 (NKJV)

We need to remember, our tongues will only speak what our heart truly feels. When we find our speech less than edifying, we need to ask the Lord to transform our heart.

I want to encourage you to think and pray upon these truths today.

STUDY QUESTION: What can we learn about our responsibility for our own actions according to the Scriptures contained within this devotional?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Are the things you speak edifying to everyone who hears them? 

PRACTICAL APPLICATION: Ask God to reveal any way in which you may be grieving the Holy Spirit. Choose to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, and get rid of anything that is not in agreement with His Word. Slow down before you speak, and think about what you plan to say.

MAKE THIS YOUR PRAYER TODAY: Father, thank You for Your new mercies each and every day. Help me to impart grace on those who may offend or hurt me or those I love. Help me to be mature in my Christian faith—one that sows harmony and peace in every relationship. Give me the wisdom and discernment to govern my speech. In Jesus’ precious name, amen…

Be blessed, Pastor Scott


Copyright ©2017 by Pastor Scott Wright.
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