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Controlling Others Verses Controlling Ourselves
4/28/2010

Controlling Others verses Controlling Ourselves

Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. James 4:7 (NKJV)

We're told in God's Word, to "Submit to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you."  Well, we all would love for the devil and his emissaries to flee from us, so let's take a look at how we can achieve this.

Q:    What does it mean to submit?

This word Submit used here in Scripture is translated from the Greek word, hupotasso, hoop-ot-as´-so.   It means to be obedient - to be in subjection.  It's when you realize that in and of yourself, you are helpless, weak, and unable.

In truth, this perfectly describes each and every one of us as Christian men and women?  We are unable to obey God's commands as He has asked because we simply lack the power and abilities on our own.  But with GOD, we are capable and empowered to do all things.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 (NKJV)

Every Christian should be submitting to God in each and every decision they face.  Having a promise from our Creator ensuring the enemy will withdraw in his attack on us should be plenty motivational in itself for us to submit.

Q:    So, why do we struggle to submit ourselves to GOD?
A:    It is because we desire to be in "Control."

Control is a powerful thing - one that lures people to make foolish choices.  It is defined as:  To manage something, or to restrain or limit something.  It can mean to be in charge of, or to have power over something or someone - to rule over.  This brings up some good questions for us to ask of ourselves; questions such as:

Q:    Why is it we desire to control the actions of others?
Q:    Why do we fear losing control of a situation?

I think we fear not having things go our way when attempting to achieve various objectives.   Perhaps we feel our self-worth is somehow attached to these objectives and goals.   And when we find them blocked by another person's actions, we can feel our worth is somehow compromised or lessened.  

Let's take a look at an example of a husband and wife.  A husband can have a desire to have a great relationship with his wife and therefore make it his goal to spend as much time as possible with her.  The wife might have different ideas for utilizing some of her time and choose to involve herself in additional activities or relationships.  The husband can now feel as though his goal or objective has been blocked, and find himself frustrated.   In an attempt to correct this he may attempt to manipulate or control certain situations, including her actions to achieve his goal.  In essence, he is attempting to control her.

The husband attempting to control the wife can simply be a poor choice of action based on a combination things, such as his frustration, bad communication, and an earnest desire to be with his wife.  It can also be an act of selfishness as he seeks to fulfill his wants and desires rather than seeking to support her.

We will all deal with this type of control at some point in our Christian walk as we attempt to fulfill our wants and desires within our flesh.   And as a result we can find ourselves attempting to control our decisions, and others, to see these desires achieved, instead of submitting to God and allowing His Word and the Holy Spirit's guidance to influence our decision-making.

Q:    What does this mean to us as Christians?

A:    It means that we should submit to God in every area of our life - allow Him and His Word to control and guide our actions and beliefs.  In doing this, our desires will change as a result.

Hey Christian, we don't need to be manipulating or controlling others, as this is a sure sign of insecurity.   We need to let God guide and direct their life.  Our goal should be to find our security in Christ; to yield control of our lives to Him, and to now be the spouse, parent, employee, employer, neighbor, friend or leader God has called us to be.  Remember, we might not be able to control how others act towards us, but we can be in control of our own actions.  Choose wisely!  Choose to let God do all He desires through you.  Choose to get out of His way.

STUDY QUESTION: What choices should we be making according to the Scriptures contained within this devotional?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Are you choosing to allow God to control your life and your choices, or are you acting independently of His Will for your life?

APPLICATION: Lay down all those areas where you are not in God's will.   Ask Him to give you the strength today to empower you to make the proper choice.  Now let Him do all that He desires in this area.

Father, Thank You for Your help and guidance in my life.  Thank You for empowering me to choose properly.  Father, please show me the areas in my life in which I am not in Your will.  Help me to see these things as You do.  Empower me today.  Fill me with Your Holy Spirit so I have everything needed to make good choices and to follow through on these proper ways.  In Jesus precious name, amen...

Be Blessed, Pastor Scott


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