What Does That Have To Do With God And You?

For the LORD gives wisdom; From His mouth come knowledge and understanding; He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk uprightly; He guards the paths of justice, And preserves the way of His saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice, Equity and every good path. Proverbs 2:6-9 (NKJV)

Through my marriage counseling, I often talk to people who have lost hope.  They have come to the end of their abilities, and I frequently hear them anguishing — because they don’t know what to do — so they simply say, “No more.”  It always saddens me to see the relationship between a husband and wife come to this point, especially when it started with so much hope, promise, and excitement. 

All too often by the time I get a chance to speak with the couple and share God’s heart and plan for their life, one, or both of them has already made up their mind to quit the relationship and appears to be only there in counseling to justify and show others they have done all they possibly could to save the marriage.  It saddens me to see, but I am confident in God’s ability to restore completely destroyed marriages and to resurrect them from the fiery ashes. 

One of the first things I attempt to ask those in counseling is, “When did you make Jesus your Lord?”  I ask this question because it is often a different date than when they accepted Jesus as their Savior.  I find their answer to be a pivotal, as it will give me a clear indication as to whether they are going submit to God’s will for their lives, regardless of what they may be facing, or feeling.

Lordship means our life is no longer our own, because we have been bought and paid for by the blood of Jesus (1Cor. 6:19-20).  Lordship is when we invite Jesus to live in our hearts and we desire to be transformed to be like Him.  Lordship is when we seek God’s will for every situation rather than following what our culture does, or what we feel like doing (cf. Luke 6:46).  Lordship means when someone else isn’t doing what he or she should be doing, we don’t allow it to affect our decisions.  I will often ask those who are complaining about their circumstances or about their spouse's selfish and hurtful actions, “What does that have to do with God and You?”

I don’t ever want to make light of the pain and suffering people are going through within the confines of their relationships, but I do want to encourage them to remember the promises and provisions from God for their lives.  God has a plan for every one of us, regardless of how bad the situation may be.  Our part is to find out what His will is for us and then for us to be obedient.  We must remember to do everything as if we are doing it for Him and with a heart of joy (Col. 3:17, 23; 1 Cor. 10:31; 2 Cor. 9:7).  

I want to encourage you to think and pray upon these things today.  Choose to trust in God’s plan and provision for your life today.  Choose to fix your mind upon Him and trust Him fully when you find yourself wanting to quit in a relationship. 

STUDY QUESTION: According to Proverbs 2;6-9, what promises and provisions are we given by God?

PERSONAL INVENTORY: Are you willing to submit to Jesus’ will for your life and allow Him to be the Lord of your life?

PRACTICAL APPLICATION: Choose to seek God’s Word to find out what His will is for you in your relationships.

LET’S MAKE THIS OUR PRAYER: Father, I know am limited in my abilities.  I need You to fill me afresh with Your Holy Spirit and empower me to live humbly and selflessly.  Help me to be a better person today and to be willing to do whatever is best for others.  In Jesus’ precious name, amen…

Be Blessed, Pastor Scott


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